Just Relax

I’ve been so stressed out today! I know we all have days like this. I really needed to just relax for 30-60 minutes but it’s very hard for me to shut my brain down so I can do so! Are you like that too when you’re stressed? Well, as things often go… just when I needed it most, someone shared a website with me that had a really wonderful and relaxing music video. I started listening and it began relaxing me right away. It’s a soft jazz sort of sound along with a video featuring some relaxing nature scenes and meditative inducing graphics. It helped me to relax and I felt rejuvenated after a 30 minute mental shut down.

I enjoyed it so much I just had to share it with you. If you are stressed out and having trouble relaxing too… I suggest you make yourself cozy and comfortable, sit back in your chair and let yourself unwind while you watch this mind relaxing video or better yet, lay down, close your eyes and let the music help your mind drift into a relaxed state.
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Enjoy!

Leigha Baer

Being Grateful For the Things We Often Take For Granted

attitude-of-gratitudeHow have you been when it comes to being grateful since the last time your were reminded how great life is?  Seriously, when was the last time you actually gave some thought to all the things you have that you should be grateful for? For some, it might have been last year at this time! Oh – but not you of course, and lol, not me either but, you know, other people.

If you’re like most people, even if it was sooner ago than that, it may have been awhile.

Gratefulness is often overlooked because we take things for granted. When we live in abundance, it’s easy to take things for granted and that is exactly why not many people pay attention to how fortunate we are and “forget” to be grateful.  Maybe that’s the real reason why we need a holiday to remind us all of how good life is to us.

Take just a few minutes to think about what you have to be grateful for. Here are some things you might have to be grateful for.  I’m sure most of us can come up with even more.

  • How about your family – Are you loved?  Do you love someone? Do you still have family who lives nearby? Still have your Mother?  Your Father? Sister? Brother? Children? Grandchildren? Friends? How about your pets?
  • How’s your health?  Are you in good shape?  Are you dealing with a health issue? I’m assuming you are alive? Do you have medical care? A health care provider you can trust?  Medications for any health issues?  A healthy diet?  Clean water to drink? The ability to exercise? The ability to walk, see, hear, and communicate?
  •  Are you working? Do you have a job?  Earn enough to get by?  Have benefits? Dependable income? Nice boss? Great place to work? Good people to work with?
  • Money – How are you finances?  Are your basic needs met?  Electricity working? Are you able to put food on the table?  Clothing?  Is your credit in good shape? Do you have a home?  A car?  Furnishings? Electronics? Cable TV, Internet? Family vacations?  Do you have any assets? Savings? Ability to help others by donations you make to causes that are important to you?

These kinds of things are often taken for granted. Your health is a great example of this. You may not think about your health until you start to have issues. How many people around you are dealing with pain issues, mobility problems, are overweight or are suffering with a major health complications. You should be grateful for the current state of your health, and you should be taking actions to maintain it.

Whether you’ve got your dream job or are doing something you don’t really love, having the ability to an income allows you to give your family food, shelter and warmth. For some people, these things are a daily struggle. Be grateful for the ability to earn and the ability to take whatever steps toward are necessary to getting your dream job!

While you may not be rich, and who doesn’t wish for more money, be grateful for what you do have. Everyone has something they are proud of, be grateful for it. If you are managing to pay your bills and rent or mortgage on time, that’s great! Are you able to feed your family and put clothing on the your children? Be grateful for that!  Again, these are things that are very difficult for some people to manage.

You may not be totally satisfied with your life. Most of us aren’t.  Take some time to think about those things you do have and then be grateful for whatever it is.

5 Tips for becoming more grateful:

  • Stop dwelling on the “what if’s” and the “don’t have’s” in life.
  • Focus on your family and your health.
  • Take an inventory of everything you have.
  • Spend some time on “doing for others”.
  • Tell someone you are grateful for them.

Some people find it helpful to keep a Gratitude Journal. This is really just a daily record of life’s little blessings but this one comes along with some insightful prompts, inspiring quotes and of course, ample room for reflecting on all the things that make life so great.

I appreciate you!

Leigha

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanksgiving Traditions and Gratitude

thanksgivingWith Thanksgiving right around the corner in my part of the world, I started thinking about a little tradition we started in our family some years ago.  It was an easy tradition to implement and only required adding a small piece of paper and something to write with, to each place setting.    Our family is a diverse group so at the beginning of our meal, we usually observe a moment of silence and then everyone writes down something they are thankful for this year.  Then, we go around the table and give each person who wishes to share, an opportunity to talk about what they are grateful for.  This has throw a few guests for a loop over the years, but for us, it is a very meaningful way to start our Thanksgiving feast.  I wish I’d have saved all the small pieces of paper over the years.  If I were starting the tradition over today, I certainly would have.  My children and grandchildren have come up with some very heartwarming, funny, and entertaining comments over the years and our family has shared both laughter and tears.  Anyway… I’ve begun thinking about what I’m going to write on my paper this year and I started thinking about what it is to be grateful.

For many of us, this time of year serves as a reminder to spend some time thinking about what’s good in our lives and for others – well, they seem to treat everyday like Thanksgiving, always being grateful for what they have. Are there two separate schools of thought on whether being grateful is necessary or beneficial?  Is feeling grateful only required from a religious standpoint?

How about you? Are you grateful for things in your life?  Are you a “blessings” counter?

Perhaps you are grateful for some of the material things you have like your home, a dependable car, and food to eat; or, perhaps the things you are grateful for are more personal like being grateful for your spouse, your children or someone special in your life.  Either way, the concept of being grateful for what you have can be difficult for some people to understand.

There are some people who, instead of focusing on what they have, find it easier to complain, be constantly thinking about what they don’t have, or that they would be happier if they just had fill in the blank here.

Do you really have to be wealthy to feel grateful for everything you have in life? Does having a lot of money in the bank automatically make you happy? The answer to both of these questions is no.  While it’s true that having money makes life easier and it most certainly takes the pressure off from having to wonder how to keep a roof over your head, or where your next meal is coming from, it doesn’t buy you happiness and you don’t need physical wealth to feel wealthy. In fact, there is no evidence to show that those who have “everything they could ever want” are more grateful for what they have than those who have almost nothing.

So if wealth, or a lack of wealth, is not an indicator of having abundance and feeling gratitude in your life, what is?  Why are some people more grateful for the things in their lives and others not. What makes us feel grateful?  Is it important to be grateful about the things we have?  Are there benefits to being grateful? And if there are benefits, can gratefulness be learned?  Can we develop a sense of gratitude or is it something you just either have or don’t have? What about those who you are grateful to? Our spouse, a friend or neighbor, someone who helped us with something? Does someone feeling grateful to them effect them?  If so, how?

Whether you call it being grateful, counting your blessings, or something else, there are clearly two groups of people when it comes to this topic.  There are those who are only think about being grateful when they are reminded about it, and those who seem to be constantly grateful for every little thing in their lives. What separates these people? Some might say God but if that’s true, then how do you explain those who are grateful without faith in God.

That’s what I’m going to think about this week.  I’m going to publish several articles this week that will take a deeper look at gratitude,what it means to be grateful and what it might mean to your life both for those who feel grateful as well as those who don’t.  I hope you’ll have something to contribute to the discussion.

Best wishes for a Happy Thanksgiving,

Leigha